“You’re so high maintenance”

Okay and??

I know I am high maintenance for certain things but why is looked down on? Am I not allowed to care deeply about things I like or have certain expectations for in my life?

Some people say that I’m high maintenance because I don’t put up with their disrespect, so I’m not easy to get along with. Some people say “oh I can’t say certain stuff around you because you’ll get offended" but maybe you just shouldn’t say wildly disrespectful things and then there wouldn’t be a problem. Just because I have boundaries that you cross doesn’t make me high maintenance. Just because I have values that don’t align with yours doesn’t make me high maintenance. Just because I will speak out on things I care about doesn’t make me high maintenance.

I believe everyone should be “high maintenance” and set standards and expectations for themselves. Just because we have different levels of importance on things doesn’t all of the sudden make me “high maintenance”. Everyone has things they care about and everyone’s important things aren’t always the same and that’s okay.

I feel like there’s so much judgement around women having “high standards” or “high expectations” and I don’t see why. Isn’t it good that someone has standards and doesn’t settle? Isn’t it good that we all care about different things so we’re not all the same?

Idk I just feel like people pick others apart for reasons they also have but in different categories. I’m not sure if that makes sense but we’re all “high maintenance” to a degree. We all have something we really care and are passionate towards. That’s what sets us all apart. We only have one life, only once chance to do what we want so why would we settle for anything less.

The answer is you shouldn’t.

YOUR life, YOUR expectations, YOUR decisions. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for taking care of yourself.

xo,

Emma Hunter